Verbal Abuse

I made a decision today to post every incident that happens. He has been raging all day long because I said something about the mini blinds on the living room windows. We had gone out to breakfast and came home. We ate at Denny's.

He was putting the storm windows back in and had the mini blinds pulled all the way up exposing the entire window. There has been an ongoing battle for months at our house about him doing this. He said I liked "living in a cave" and that I must have "something to hide" because I don't want to expose my living room to every car that passes my house at night.

In fact, one night a female friend of HIS that he used to hang out with years ago called and actually said something to him about being able to see right into our living room one night when she picked her daughter up at the high school directly across the street from us. I was sure he would realize that it wasn't just me at this point. But nooooo, he continues to do it. As a matter of fact it seems he PURPOSELY does anything and everything he can that he thinks will aggravate anyone. That is reverse thinking from the normal person. Most of us in life do our level best to get along, but HE thinks bucking everything makes him "the man".

When I asked today WHY the blinds were once again all the way up, he puffed out his chest and cheeks and started yelling that I "felt the need to dominate him", "control him", etc etc. He went on and on. We got into an argument which resulted in me finally going upstairs and taking about a 3-hour nap just to get away from him.

I got up about 7pm and it just continued. I feel he had already ruined what could have been a good day so I did not have much to say to him. About 7:30, he began asking me if I wanted to eat something. I told him the day was nearly over and "no thank you."

I asked him if he felt nothing about his behavior today or any of the abuse he has inflicted upon me in the past BOTH physically and verbally. He had the nerve to say, "I have never done anything to you that you did not instigate or goad me into". This comes from the mouth of a man who was COURT ORDERED to Anger Management and had a 2-year Protective Order against him from beating me in the side of the head on Halloween night 2005. Its bad enough to hurt others, but this man has NO REMORSE for ANY of his actions.

Before his "episode" ended tonight, he had calle me an "ignorant f'ing bitch", a "stupid hillbilly", and a "lazy ass bitch." Then has the nerve to ask me if I am still having Thanksgiving for everyone???? In other words, he thinks he can do as he pleases and nothing he WANTS should change no matter what he has done. And he calls me "Psychotic"??????

I really think he could be capable of anything and then doing everything he can to cover up what he did. He truly believes he has never done anything wrong.

Labels: Abuse, Anger Management, Batterer, domestic violence, Verbal Abuse